‘Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.’ – Suzy Kassem
To get started on your journey towards mastering the skill of positive thinking, you need to get rid of all traces of doubt and negative thinking as soon as possible. If you continue doubting yourself, you’re never going to get the life you desire or the body shape you desire. In fact if you are a negative thinker as your default button, the chances are that you are not satisfied with your body shape and that leads towards more negative thinking.
For some people looking to change their outlook on life can be a very scary step because they are stepping out of their present comfort zone and into a new comfort zone. It may be that they are too afraid to deal with the reality that failure is a necessary – and important – step towards success.
Doubters will doubt themselves. They’ll doubt the people around them. They’ll doubt everything and everyone. These people are downers. They literally make everyone around them suffer just by being near them. Does this sound like you? I sure hope not! No one wants to be around a Negative Nancy or Nigel so you definitely shouldn’t ever want to be one!
Just like most things in life, overcoming doubt and negative thinking is easier said than done. Sure, it’s easy to utter positive words when you need to. But deep inside you know your first instinct is to say something gloomy or depressing. You need to put a stop to your destructive inner voice right now.
Here are 10 powerful ways you can get started with removing negativity in your life so you can move forward and upward!
1. Take action and Let go of the past
The past is gone, it’s over. You can try all you want, but you can never turn back the clock. You can’t change what has happened.
If it was really hard on you physically or emotionally, you have to let it go otherwise it will continue to suck any positivity out of you and will continue to ruin your remaining days just as it did your past. Look at the present without letting your past cloud your judgment. If you fail to move forward because the past is holding you back, then you need to reassess your life and your life goals.
Whatever happened in the past has got to stay in the past. Even though you re-live it and would love to change it, you can’t unless you’re superman and fly backwards around the universe! The reality is if you continue letting it affect you, then your future may not turn out to what you want it to be and your present will be full of negativity and stress.
2. Learn from your mistakes
One thing people often overlook is the fact that mistakes do happen. Sure, you can have the best-laid plans, but sometimes you just can’t stop mistakes from happening.
Mistakes – whether they are big or small – are bound to happen. That’s just the way the world works. Don’t let it dissuade you though, because some of your biggest mistakes are your greatest life lessons. Don’t think that just because you made a mistake in the past, that you can’t ever succeed in the same task somewhere in the future whether that is losing a few pounds or changing jobs or project.
No, you have to stop thinking like that. Otherwise, you’re just proving to your inner critic that it’s right! And once your inner critic feels it is proved correct, then it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
3. Stop focusing on what’s wrong
Whenever a problem comes up, you probably try to find out What’s wrong. This behavior is totally normal – how else can you fix problems if you don’t know what caused it in the first place?
But getting hung up on these mistakes – especially if you’re the one who caused them – is just wrong and will do neither you nor the situation and good. In fact, if you don’t stop berating yourself, then you can’t move forward to fix the problem.
So instead of saying ‘Why am I overweight? (a negative question) ask what can I do to lose five pounds? You are looking for the same end result of losing a few pounds but the first question puts your brain in negative mode as soon as you think it.
Have a little faith in yourself. A little positive pep talk will go a long way towards building your confidence and hence your ability to lose weight.
4. Don’t go looking for other people to blame
A negative person’s first reaction to a problem is to find out who made a mistake. A positive person, on the other hand, will also try to find out who made the mistake. But, instead of focusing on the person, they’ll use their energy to try and solve the problem at hand. When the problem has been solved and dealt with, then they’ll go back to the person who made the mistake. Instead of berating them, they’ll give some constructive feedback to help them avoid making the same error in the future.
5. Just tell yourself to STOP
This is probably the hardest of the 10 steps. We can all turn molehills into mountains but the ability to stop that sort of thinking early on is key to a positive life. When you know your thoughts are spiraling into negativity, you should stop yourself right away. This is why self-awareness is so important – you can pinpoint the exact moment your inner self-destructive twin rears its ugly head. Once you realize where your thoughts are heading, tell yourself to stop. Take a deep breath. Go out for a walk to clear your head, or do whatever you need to do just to shut out that inner voice.
6. Get help from positive people
Friends are a good thing to have, but having positive friends you can rely on is even better. A positive person will help you overcome your negative thoughts. They will cheer you up when you’re feeling down. They’ll look at your problems from an objective point of view, so you can see the positive side, too. Your negative friends won’t do the same for you. Instead of cheering you up, they’ll probably try to drag you further down usually unintentionally because that’s the way they are programmed. They’ll feed on your negative thoughts, and they’ll send even more negativity your way.
7. Start a journal
Having a journal is a great way to track down your thoughts. Whenever you’re feeling down, write it down. In the same entry, write your positive responses to your negative thoughts.
Think about how you can turn a negative situation into a positive one. Then highlight the positive notes in your journal. That way, when you feel down again, you can easily find your positive entries to help get you back on track.
Additionally, you can also use your journal to write down all the good things you currently have going for you. Attitude of Gratitude is so important whether it’s gratitude for having a job, a pet, your family, or the latest gadget you’ve saved up for months, write it down if it makes you happy and makes you think positive thoughts.
8. Look at failure as an opportunity to learn
This is another very difficult step as nobody ever sets out to fail and nobody ever wants to say that they failed at something.
Failure isn’t the big bad wolf you probably think it is. Sure, failing big time might sound scary. It’s something you probably don’t ever want to experience. But think about how many times successful entrepreneurs failed before they succeeded?
The truth is; successful people have probably failed more times than you can fathom. That may sound silly, but it’s true. Successful people think of failure as stepping stones towards success. Win or lose, they get something from the experience!
9. Enjoy your achievements no matter how small
Don’t belittle your achievements. No big thing can be completed without many small parts. If you’re aiming to be a millionaire in a year, then be thankful if you’re making a profit now or still in business to be in a position to make that profit next year. Big dreams start small. Break down your big goals into mini goals. That’s how you make success look easy!
Every time you hit a mini-goal, celebrate. Don’t think it’s just a small win. Don’t forget small wins often lead to big wins! Enjoy every step of the journey even if you are weighing yourself and it is no weight lost this week but no weight gained either then focus on the positive and see it as no weight gained.
Becoming positive minded is all about taking it one positive step at a time even if they are baby steps.
10. Adjust as necessary
Your dreams and your goals aren’t set in stone. You can define it any way you want – it’s yours after all. But if something happens along the way and you cannot achieve your dreams exactly as you’ve hoped for, then don’t fret. Sometimes, you have to adapt and adjust.
When you first planned your steps towards achieving your goals, you may not have considered some important factors. You’ve come a long way, you don’t want to break down now. Think about alternatives and how these might turn out to be better than what you initially hoped for!